Don't stop dating other men until he proposes, advises 'Get the Ring' coach who did just that (and is now responsible for 95 engagements)
Love coach Sami Wunder is based between the UK and Germany
Coaches clients not to become an exclusive girlfriend until the man proposes
Says women should keep seeing other men on a non-sexual basis
Method worked with her own husband - who proposed after nine months
By SIOFRA BRENNAN FOR MAILONLINE
PUBLISHED: 07:59 EDT, 23 March 2018 | UPDATED: 11:39 EDT, 23 March 2018
A relationship expert who describes herself as the 'Get the Ring Coach' has revealed why women looking for marriage should refuse to date men on an exclusive basis - until they propose.
Love and Relationship Coach Sami Wunder, who is based between the UK and Germany, used the same trick herself when she first met Chris, now her husband, by refusing to stop dating other people until he popped the question.
Nine months later he did and now they have been happily married for five years and have a son, while Sami has been responsible for 95 proposals in two years of business - with one taking just three months.
'This approach works wonderfully well for that smart, successful, amazing woman who has aced all aspects of her life and career and love is the only thing that hasn't worked out for her,' she told Femail.
She is so ready to settle down and have a family right now, and doesn't want to waste time being someone's girlfriend for years, especially when he has no clear intention of offering her marriage or the commitment she wants.
'The way the system is built, masculine men who aim to settle down themselves and want to commit and have a family, will love a decisive woman who knows what she wants and will give her the commitment she deserves, if they are serious about her and in love.
'If not, they will say no and that helps both parties to move on quickly, without giving false hopes or promises.
'The thing to understand about this system is that it isn't a pressure based manipulation tactic or an ultimatum you're giving to a man.
'He still has the choice to not commit to you, to say no, to go see others himself or simply stop seeing you.
'That is his right. The system only ensures that you don't offer full husband benefits to such a man, that only wants to offer you girlfriend status.
Love coach Sami Wunder is based between the UK and Germany
Coaches clients not to become an exclusive girlfriend until the man proposes
Says women should keep seeing other men on a non-sexual basis
Method worked with her own husband - who proposed after nine months
By SIOFRA BRENNAN FOR MAILONLINE
PUBLISHED: 07:59 EDT, 23 March 2018 | UPDATED: 11:39 EDT, 23 March 2018
A relationship expert who describes herself as the 'Get the Ring Coach' has revealed why women looking for marriage should refuse to date men on an exclusive basis - until they propose.
Love and Relationship Coach Sami Wunder, who is based between the UK and Germany, used the same trick herself when she first met Chris, now her husband, by refusing to stop dating other people until he popped the question.
Nine months later he did and now they have been happily married for five years and have a son, while Sami has been responsible for 95 proposals in two years of business - with one taking just three months.
'This approach works wonderfully well for that smart, successful, amazing woman who has aced all aspects of her life and career and love is the only thing that hasn't worked out for her,' she told Femail.
She is so ready to settle down and have a family right now, and doesn't want to waste time being someone's girlfriend for years, especially when he has no clear intention of offering her marriage or the commitment she wants.
'The way the system is built, masculine men who aim to settle down themselves and want to commit and have a family, will love a decisive woman who knows what she wants and will give her the commitment she deserves, if they are serious about her and in love.
'If not, they will say no and that helps both parties to move on quickly, without giving false hopes or promises.
'The thing to understand about this system is that it isn't a pressure based manipulation tactic or an ultimatum you're giving to a man.
'He still has the choice to not commit to you, to say no, to go see others himself or simply stop seeing you.
'That is his right. The system only ensures that you don't offer full husband benefits to such a man, that only wants to offer you girlfriend status.
How do you get a proposal?
DO
Understand this isn't a strategy to manipulate men but rather to stand in your power and not settle for anything less than a full commitment - the ring, the proposal.
If a man does ask you if you're seeing others, be honest and share openly.
If he doesn't want you to see others, refuse politely. He is just seeing you and shouldn't be telling you what you should do or not do unless he has a solid offer for you on the table.
Treat all men equally, even those you like a lot, because if they're serious about you, they will just step up and block more and more of your time.
Hold your nerve. I am confident that if Chris hadn't stepped up to claim me, someone else would have started to show up in my life more consistently. Basically, if you're not serious, you will just fizzle out or be over-taken by a man who is darn serious about the woman in front of him.
DON'T
Don't get sexually involved too quickly. Remember, you're going on 'connection dates'
Use this as a strategy to pressure the man into marrying you. If he doesn't want to, rotational date till you have attracted that man who does want to give you the world.
Feel guilty or like you're cheating him, just because you're seeing him on dates. Dating just means "girl for now" and you want to be a man's forever girl and for that, you must stand up for yourself and know what you deserve.
Wait for a proposal. Your motto is, "May the best man win" and the men you're dating know this and feel this. In the Wunder Soulmate attraction method, you're the prize in love, just because you're a woman.
DO
Understand this isn't a strategy to manipulate men but rather to stand in your power and not settle for anything less than a full commitment - the ring, the proposal.
If a man does ask you if you're seeing others, be honest and share openly.
If he doesn't want you to see others, refuse politely. He is just seeing you and shouldn't be telling you what you should do or not do unless he has a solid offer for you on the table.
Treat all men equally, even those you like a lot, because if they're serious about you, they will just step up and block more and more of your time.
Hold your nerve. I am confident that if Chris hadn't stepped up to claim me, someone else would have started to show up in my life more consistently. Basically, if you're not serious, you will just fizzle out or be over-taken by a man who is darn serious about the woman in front of him.
DON'T
Don't get sexually involved too quickly. Remember, you're going on 'connection dates'
Use this as a strategy to pressure the man into marrying you. If he doesn't want to, rotational date till you have attracted that man who does want to give you the world.
Feel guilty or like you're cheating him, just because you're seeing him on dates. Dating just means "girl for now" and you want to be a man's forever girl and for that, you must stand up for yourself and know what you deserve.
Wait for a proposal. Your motto is, "May the best man win" and the men you're dating know this and feel this. In the Wunder Soulmate attraction method, you're the prize in love, just because you're a woman.
Personally, I don't buy the whole 'soul mate' thing. If Guy A isn't ready or isn't interested in marriage or family stuff, move on. Guy B who is ready will be just as adorable (funny, smart, responsible, etc.). The soul mate stuff happens after you've experienced a lot of ups and downs together.
DM
Let me help you out here - it's a fun song, and the visuals aren't bad either:
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