Why I Will Never Shave My Legs Again

[Norm dePlume]

I don't find bras on guys attractive. I don't think that is sexism.

Well, that's only fair. Guys don't like bras on women, either. We try to get them off as quickly as possible.


I think it's very odd that women are expected to wear hobbles. But I still appreciate it when they do.

[Lanie]

I don't find bras on guys attractive. I don't think that is sexism.

Guys with moobs should probably wear them.

[phillygirl]

Come now, dear, you can do better than a non sequitur. Bras have a specific, readily identifiable purpose, based on anatomy. Men and women both have leg hair. Most men do not have anything to put in a bra, any more than most women have anything to put in a jockstrap.

Okay. I don't like guys with waxed eyebrows. How's that?

[Lanie]

Okay. I don't like guys with waxed eyebrows. How's that?

That's sexist. Why can't guys wax their eyebrows?

And why can't they wear dresses without being girls?

[phillygirl]

That's sexist. Why can't guys wax their eyebrows?

They can. They just look stupid.

And why can't they wear dresses without being girls?

See above.

[Billy Jingo]

[Gingersnap]

Kilts do look good on guys - including the work kilt which I see from time-to-time out here:



But amount of bare leg you see with these things is pretty minimal.

[Frostbit]

Kilts do look good on guys - including the work kilt which I see from time-to-time out here:



But amount of bare leg you see with these things is pretty minimal.

Unless they are on a ladder above you.

[Celeste Chalfonte]

Well, that's only fair. Guys don't like bras on women, either. We try to get them off as quickly as possible.


I think it's very odd that women are expected to wear hobbles. But I still appreciate it when they do.

Why? That woman's feet look as tortured as they probably are. The shoes make her veins stand out. Healthy feet in cute little strappy flat sandals are much sexier, IMO.

[Celeste Chalfonte]

They can. They just look stupid.


See above.

[Adam]

Question B is more interesting. I think both men and women have an obligation to appear appealing to their partners.

I don't think it's an "obligation" nearly so much as it is just a reasonable expectation of the suited. If I'm going to approach PG for a date, it's hardly her fault for turning me down if I haven't bathed in three weeks and my hair resembles an unkempt shrubbery. She has no obligation to accept a suitor's request from me even if I look like Richard Gere in a tuxedo, either, but if I approach her and I look like shit, then it's completely asinine for me to think that she may accept my entreaty.

By the same token, it's fairly unlikely that she will attract me to approach her if she looks like some bag lady who has been on crack for a couple of years, either.


BUT, maybe PG likes the "mountain man" look. Maybe I like the "unkempt" look: indeed, there is some truth to that: I have always been turned off by women who wear any significant amount of makeup, for example. All that eye liner and mascara and eye shadow and whatever is just a big turn-off to me, and always has been.



This whole article seems to be basically predicated upon the notion that someone has some obligation to ever attract a mate in the first place. That presumption is simply incorrect.

[Lady Marva]

LOLOL, did the leg shaving thing religiously most of my adult life, in addition to always - no matter the temperature- wearing stockings.
BUT ----wised up and decided there is no reason for it. Nobody sees my legs so who cares?

[Lady Marva]

Baddaboombd! Be still my heart!

[Michele]

Okay. I don't like guys with waxed eyebrows. How's that?

I think the unibrow could be the only exception. Please don't ask for photos.

[Gingersnap]

This whole article seems to be basically predicated upon the notion that someone has some obligation to ever attract a mate in the first place. That presumption is simply incorrect.

I think that might be the problem and I perpetuated it. "Obligation" is the wrong word here - it implies a burden or quid pro quo. I don't think most people see it that way.

I don't dress to impress my husband 24/7 neither do I dress to attract attention from strangers. On the other hand, I'm aware of what I look like in public and private. I don't appear as though I'm going to paint the doors unless I really am painting doors that day.

Part of this is self-image. Like everybody, I have one. Mine involves looking appropriate for the occasion even if the occasion is eating popcorn with Mr. Snaps on some random night. Part of it fashion - I sew and I'm well aware of trends as well as what looks good on me. Part of it is vanity - I don't look good to myself in ratty jeans and some ill-fitting tee-shirt.

But part of it is to stay in touch with the care I took before Mr. Snaps and I got married. He appreciated the look then and he appreciates it now.

It's a complicated question which is why I thought it was interesting.